All of us affirm to want to be happy, yet the pursuit of happiness never reaches the top of our to-do lists. as our lives are busy, caring for our children and parents, holding on to our jobs, working to pay the bills, the EMI’s and to see the smooth functioning of our families. We are “happy” simply to complete our tasks for the day. Have we stopped and asked ourselves
whether these tasks are making us really happy?
But what is Happiness?
Happiness is defined as – the state of being happy.
Happiness is a state and not a trait. Happiness is a skill you can learn and practice the rest of your life. Whether you drive from happiness, pursuit happiness, or simply grow happiness right under your feet, you can draw from many sources to help you through your journey in life.
Happiness is satisfaction with one’s self. It is associated with self-confidence, self-esteem, and the feeling of content.
In general, it means that you are pleased with yourself and your choices, and with the person that you are.
A few Steps to Attract Happiness
1. Be Content
Some people are magnetic and seem to get whatever it is that they want in life. Instead of focusing on them, focus on what it is you want in life. Transform these activated feelings into deactivated feelings such as calmness and contentment. These feelings are healthier and also easier to sustain. Outline the steps you need to take to get there. Then do your best.
Be grateful for what you already have i.e the present; from the tiniest things of beauty to the grandest of our blessings – and in so doing, to take nothing for granted. Focus your attention on the opportunities that are always available and acknowledge, that life is a gift, even in the most challenging times. Life gives us opportunities to learn and grow, and to extend ourselves with care and compassion to others.
When you feel grateful for all the goodness in your life, you’ll no longer worry about whether others get more.
3. Love yourself
Ask yourself “Do I love myself? You deserve to be loved not only by those around you but by the most important person in your life — YOU.
Real love is a feeling that arises within, and it begins with self-respect, self-love, and a illingness to open your heart. Healthy self-love is about getting in touch with ourselves, our well-being and our happiness.
If you want to feel lovable, start loving yourself.
4. Live in the Present
As the saying goes “To err is human”
Everyone makes mistakes. So stop thinking about your past mistakes. Nobody is perfect. Stop blaming yourself or feeling guilty for all the bad decisions you have taken in life. Also stop worrying about your future. Live in the present and cherish every moment. Don’t let the good times go unnoticed.
You can’t change the things you have done in the past but you can control your future. Look at it as a learning experience and believe in your ability to change.
5. Be Thankful
Be thankful that you wake up every morning. Not many people are lucky to see a new day. Be thankful for the air you breathe, water you drink, the food you eat. You may not be aware that many people out there would like to be in your shoes.
Remember all your past moments and decisions that brought happiness and rejoice in them. Be thankful to God for bestowing such joyous moments.
6. Develop Positive Thoughts
Your thoughts build your reality. Positive thoughts creates real value in your life and helps you build skills that last much longer than a smile.
Positive thoughts attract positive things in life and negative thoughts attract similar experiences. The only way to experience happiness is to feel good about all that you have. Surround Yourself with Positive People. Steer clear from people who indulge in negative talks or de-motivate you.